Staying on Your Beam
So how do we know we are off of our beam? Here are a few of the signs:
- We experience…anger
- loneliness
- fatigue
- sadness
- having trouble focusing
- not being interested in others feelings or connecting with those we love
- looking for conflict rather than resolution with others
- feeling bad, even when nothing bad is happening
- being harsh and judgmental of others
- basing our outlook on life from a place of fear rather than love
- not asking for help and support when we need it
- choosing to focus on the pain rather than the joy
- seeing things as black and white rather than gray
- not being able to apologize and repair when we hurt others
- feeling like a victim
- being in a state of constant overwhelm
Here is how we differentiate from our pain, and get back on our beam:
The most important aspect to stay on our beam is to create quiet in our lives every day to say “hi” to ourselves…so we can notice if we are on our beam. Noticing when we are off of our beam is a huge part of regaining balance. Ask what do I need right now to feel settled and calm? Space, food, sleep, a hug, see Dr. Kate????
What brings up my mood and energy? Exercise? Eating better fuel for me? Supplements?, Music? Dancing? Friends? Nature?
What can I say to myself to soothe what is happening? What do I need to acknowledge before I let go of what is difficult?
Write a list of resources (things that comfort you and lift you up)
What is the tape that is playing out, and how can I change stations like a radio to a more healthy station?
What am I supposed to learn from this: pain, difficulty, suffering…etc
Here is my resource list as an example:
- being outside
- calling a friend
- listening to music
- dancing
- dogs
- making art
- hugs from loved ones
- watching silly movies
- chocolate
- bodywork: craniosacral, acupuncture, chiropractic care…
- silly jokes, stories, and goofy friends
- etc…
Often what is needed is a very simple to stay on our beam. Humans can make it much more complicated than it needs to be to stay resourced. Creating space is probably the largest resource you can use. Space for yourself to rest, eat, slow down, and get a break from toxic situations. Keep it simple. One of my favorite ways to stay on my beam is with some form of body work. I guess that is why I chose the profession I am in…so I can stay on my beam and I know how to quickly hop back on, and support others in this!!! Chiropractic care works with the beam on a literal level, by allowing energy to move through your bones more freely when they are in good alignment and motion, energy moves more readily. Craniosacral supports patient’s to be on their beam energetically by magnifying and strengthening their midline, and whole energy field. I find it rather interesting that I was drawn to do my work by focusing on the spine, and having a need to work with my hands. This is the literal and energetic manifestation of our beam. It is not so much about the spine being straight, as it is about the spine expressing its full range of motion between joints and the bones themselves breathing. As the great cranial Osteopath Dr. Becker said: “Life is Motion”… So take some time this winter to stay on your beam by keeping things alive, and flowing.
